Sunday, October 27, 2013

Manners - Part 1

What are manners?

A quick google search tells me there are two dictionary definitions. 

plural noun: manners
  1. 1.
    a way in which a thing is done or happens.
    "taking notes in an unobtrusive manner"
  2. 2.
    a person's outward bearing or way of behaving towards others.
    "his arrogance and pompous manner"

I'm more referring the the second definition; a persons outward bearing or way of behaving towards others. Or my translation -- how we should act or interact socially, using kindness and respect. To be courteous and thoughtful. 

A few examples of manners: 

Manners in conversation:
Saying please and thank you
Saying good morning or good afternoon 
Looking and listening to someone when they are speaking to you
Not barging in on a conversation
Introducing new people to a conversation/room
Using the correct tone of voice (inside or outside voice) 
Saying excuse me when leaving a conversation or room

Manners at the table:
Give thanks to The Lord - say grace
Using a knife and fork correctly while eating 
Asking if you can leave the dinner table

Manners when in public:
Offering the elderly or pregnant ladies a seat
Men open the door for ladies
Holding a door open for those following behind you
Saying pardon me when you burp or rumble (aka fart, bottom burp, relieve gas etc.) 
Saying God bless you after a person sneezes
Offering assistance to those in need 
Waiting your place in line - don't push in! 
Wear appropriate clothing
Don't use bad or rude language
Be polite

Manners for friends:
Sharing with others
Ask for something don't just take it and don't snatch
Offer a guest first pick of the meal
Think of others feelings

Why write about manners?

It has been brought to my attention (and it's obvious) that this is an area that over time is being forgotten and neglected. I'm not sure if it's because there are more working parents or if people just don't care anymore but I think these are the basics that we should be teaching our children. Manners are not difficult. Toddlers should be learning these basic principles at home and I feel as it is a mummy's job the teach them. 

Manners help us throughout the rest of our life. Manners help us to build good character and in the future they will help us to: make friends, be a good example, be a leader, get a job, find a soul mate and to be successful at whatever we pursue. How can manners do all this you might ask... That's easy, we will will have learnt the basics in how to be good, kind and thoughtful that it will be second nature, natural and effortless. These qualities can be hard to come by in the world. 

Think about it... How many times do people cut I front of you while driving? Or at the supermarket have you ever had to ask for assistance instead of having it offered? 

I grew up being taught manners. They have certainly kept me in good stead. They are like a moral compass. Treat others as you would want to be treated and use good etiquette - these basics will set you apart and more importantly it's the right thing to do! 

If you want to read more examples of manners see this link... 

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